I actually got the idea to share this “slice” from my friend and colleague, Dana…..as her post reminded me of my own experience with childbirth. While going through my husband’s drawer, I found a box containing all of the cards and letters I had ever written him. This one, (originally hand-written) was among them. Written on the day I gave birth to our son in 1983, I have decided to share it. Thirty years later, some of these words seem almost prophetic…..my deepest hopes and deepest fears, have never changed…..perhaps that is why I feel so lost today………
You will probably have trouble reading this. My writing is still a little wobbly, so please just do your best. I ask that you read this carefully, I want, (need), you to understand everything I am trying to say.
It’s times like these I wish I had a poet’s way with words to share with you my feelings. I mean, how can a person express to another how they feel, when they don’t even know themselves? I have so many emotions all wrapped into one, which I guess ultimately, comes down to only one word, Love!
As I sat here today with our baby wrapped in my arms, I felt totally satisfied and serene. I don’t ever remember feeling so totally content. I am amazed when I think that you and I together created this beautiful being from love, and how we worked together to bring into this world, our very own life.
I realize, of course, that billions have done this before us, but at this moment, I feel as though only you and I really understand it. Sounds silly, huh?
I don’t believe it is possible to convey to anyone else the absolute beauty of this experience. I realize that this is a special bond between you and me that nobody else in the world will ever comprehend, they can’t… they've not experienced it…..and never will.
My deepest hope is that these feelings last forever. That you will love me always, as you do today and I will love you, as I do now, because it’s the ultimate.
My deepest fear is the thought of life without you. I realize now that you are truly the other half of me. I don’t think I really ever understood that before, but without you, I could never be whole again.
I wonder if you feel as I do…..do you fear the thought of life without me? Do you feel that no one in the world can really understand “you”?
I want you to know that despite the intensity of the pain of labor, and the difficulty of delivering, I would do it all again right now, if I could do it with you. As the song goes, “I want to drown in your laughter and die in your arms……let me always be with you…..”
Please, if there is a God, I pray he will let us keep at least one thing in our life…..the love we have for each other…….